Psychologists have discovered the secret of a happy marriage – RSUTE

Moscow / 19.03.2016 20:25 / RSUTE.ru

American scientists from the University of Florida have found that the high expectations of marriage can ruin a young family because of not unfulfilled dreams.

in order to reach this conclusion, researchers conducted a study involving couples, recently married. Initially, the study, all participants filled out questionnaires, which indicated any change in their life they expect from marriage. All study participants for several years been under the supervision of specialists.

From time to time they passed through surveys whose answers were analyzed psychologists. The result was that the couple would expect from his life partner too much, often experienced the frustration that led couples to divorce.

Taking into account the results of this study, psychologists recommend to young people who marry, be realistic and do not expect from a family life for something unrealizable. So, young man, interrupting the wedding odd jobs, is unlikely to be after marriage successful businessman.

Young people who break the affordable housing on the outskirts of the city, it is unlikely after the wedding night will be in a luxurious two-bedroom apartment in a prestigious residential area. Girl hates cooking and washing dishes, with a very small percentage of probability after prostanovki stamp in the passport will be the perfect hostess. Psychologists advise young people to immediately negotiate their plans and hopes for the future married life, so that later do not be disappointed in it

In addition, in the course of the study, researchers saw:. From marriage more waiting just for the fair sex, they also By the way, we are more inclined to idealize the future husband

Before the start of family life, some participants also reported that they believe:. potential husband after the wedding is sure to become more truly caring and will earn more money and even completely revise their interests. Almost all the girls argue similarly, was disappointed.

By the way, earlier psychologists at Florida State University in Tallahassee have developed a test for love, or as it is called themselves, for luck test. It can help you learn about the feelings that the couple subconsciously feel for each other. Development of the test lasted four years and began with the fact that scientists have proposed nearly 200 couples who had just legalized their relationship, to answer two questions. The first question was about the feelings of a spouse (wife) – As expected, all the newlyweds answered it equally

After that, each of the newlyweds for a split second showed a photo of his wife, and then asked to quickly assess the positive or. negative is some of the words, such as “good”, “bad”, “satisfactory”, “unsatisfactory”, “horrible” or “beautiful».

The preliminary survey, as might be expected, in each case found the same results: the couple talked about each other only in very warm colors, and often even enthusiastic. However, during the subsequent test with pictures of couples have been identified, where it is not all plain sailing with mutual relations. Subsequently, all the pairs participating in the experiment, every six months for several years invited for interview. It was found in this case that the people have demonstrated in the first test, a negative reaction to the photo partner on average were unhappy in marriage, some of these couples and all fell apart.

And another group of researchers found that married couples, to acquaint on the internet, divorce less often than the couple who met each other “offline”. In the study, psychologists have analyzed data about the life of 19 thousand. Spouses who met with their halves in the internet and “in real life».

It turned out that the couple met each other in the vast World Wide Web, not only rarely divorced, but also feel much happier.

Scientists believe that the success of online dating is the fact that users of sites have to lay out a huge amount of information about themselves, which allows them to future lover to know them better still before the first date.